Flowers While Living

This weekend one of my dearest friends hosted a surprise 60th birthday celebration for her mother.  There was so much love in the room.  During the celebration, they had a time for words of expression to the “birthday girl.”  It was a time to reflect on what she meant to everyone and tell how our lives had been impacted by her love and acts of kindness.  It was also a time for us to shower her with love back.  My friend kept saying “we have to give flowers while they live.”

“Give Flowers While They Live”

To “give flowers while they live” is an expression of love.  When someone gives or send you flowers they show an act of love (including caring, thoughtfulness, etc.) towards you.  To give someone their flowers while they are living means to acknowledge what they mean to you and how they have impacted your life and express that to them while they are still alive.  A lot of times we wait until someone pass to express how much they meant to us.  We will get up at the wake or funeral and have words about them.  However the problem with that is, they are no longer able to hear your words of love.  We must learn to cherish our loved ones and “give them their flowers” while we still have them with us.  Don’t be afraid to say I love you, thank you, I appreciate you. Flowers While Living



Even more we must stop letting the sun go down on unresolved relationships.  There are so many broken relationships.  A lot of which are not even sure why they no longer speak, all they know for certain is that they don’t.  Life is too short to not have resolve.  You can sleep better when you have made peace with a person or situation.  We have to learn how to forgive and let it go.  Unforgiveness keeps us in bondage and does not allow us to openly and freely give our love to one another.  Once we are able to forgive we are able to use the space that unforgiveness once occupied to love freely again; with wisdom of course. Pray for resolution with any broken relationships you may have.  Learn to forgive and let go.

Make an effort

Make an effort to let those who have impacted your life know.  Sometimes encouragement is all someone needs to keep going.  Let them know how much you love them and what your life would be like if they had not been a part of it.  Give flowers to the living while they can still be appreciated.

I would also like to take time this week to honor my late grandmother the Rev. Arlene Motley-Spells.  It was 5 years October 5th, 2016 that we lost her.  She impacted my life in a huge way and I know that I would not be who I am and where I am if it had not been for her influence in my life.  I take this time to honor her memory.  Her legacy lives on through her children, grandchildren and great grandchildren.  When she was alive, I told her how much she meant to me, what it meant to have her in my life, how she encouraged me and how I loved her.  I’m thankful that I was able to give her flowers while she lived.

Tracy Collymore